By the next morning I was throwing up blood, and I called in sick to my job, called the mother of the boy I babysat in the mornings, and told them I was going to the hospital. Matt came home during the hour between morning classes to see how I was, and when I told him I was throwing up blood he went pale.
That moment won't happen again. It didn't happen again. I start anti-nausea medication the moment I get a positive test now. But...that is my fear. I've been feeling lately that it's time to have another baby, but I can't. Right now, I just cannot handle the idea of being so sick again. I look at my two rainbow babies, and the desire for another baby feels selfish when I think of the cost to them.
I hate that every time I think about the short time I had with my beautiful Cora, the trauma is what comes to mind. I did have happy moments, but I have to dig to remember those. I think that's one of the hardest parts of her death. I never got a time with her when I truly felt well and happy. And that just breaks my heart.
I also have so few pictures of me when I was pregnant with her. I never felt photographic because I felt so awful. Looking back at the pictures, it's not true, but that's the way I felt anyway. Here's one, my first trip to Yellowstone. I felt SO sick during all the driving, but I managed to look happy.
Ugh, I know how horrible the HG is and I fear it with every fiber of my being but like you, I take the anti-nausea meds from the start of my pregnancy.
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(((HUGS)))What a precious photo. Brokenhearted love is being spilled over here for you this morning.
ReplyDeleteHere is my post about Cora Written in Heaven. I'll email you the actual photo for your collage.
http://shineliketheson-mymotherhoodtrail.blogspot.com/2010/07/written-in-heaven-baby-cora-rei.html
Oh Brittanie- you have literally taken the feelings in my entire beings and placed them into words. I can really relate to your feelings about flashbacks of the extreme nausea you had. The day you despcribed at 10 weeks, I had an almost exact replica of that day at around the same time period. I too started the zofran pump after that hospital visit, but I never really felt "well" at all during my whole pregnancy with Zech. I can imagine how hard it is to have these difficult memories be what marks your time with dear sweet Cora. I wish i could just hug you through this computer screen right now. I am struggling with the idea of having another baby as well. I feel the need to give my son a sibling but I fear the cost of doing so when his mother is out of commission for 10 months in order to do so. I don't know the right answer here. I will pray God brings us both the answers soon. XOXO
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